In my profession as a psychologist, and in my own personal life, I  have seen suffering which is very difficult to get over.  It seems to become a part of us...the hurt does.  The hurt we suffered finds a place in our soul and makes a niche for itself and establishes permanent residence.

To the many people I have met who will recognize those words above as being descriptive of their own lives....I know you have often heard "just get over it"............and you feel that it is not so easy.
I have had my own very tough experiences with allowing hurt to find a longterm residence inside me.  After allowing it to be there too long.....it becomes harder and harder to ask it to leave.  It has found a home within us.  Sometimes it stays because we want it to.  Sometimes it stays because it begins to serve a certain purpose--it may justify our anger or feed our self pity.  And sometimes it stays because we just pay way too much attention to it.

Sometimes it stays because we do not know how to ask it to leave.  We feel helpless in the embrace of its power.  So there are lots of reasons why it is there and why it remains.  Here, in these few sentences, I would not be able to tell you how to rid yourself of your deep pain which has been there so long........but I think I have a couple of ideas that may help you to begin the process of ridding yourself of it..........

Accept responsibility for beginning to rid yourself of it.  You can ask for help, of course, but you must know this is YOUR JOB.  It is your responsibility.  You have to not want it to be there any longer.  How it started is no longer relevant when so much time has passed.  You will now take charge of its ultimate exit from your soul.

Do all you can to stop feeding it.  It can't live without being fed by your attention to its existence.

And finally, lots of people are suffering similar dilemmas.......go give them some help.  It will nourish the goodness and the nobility within you and the painful place will no longer feel natural....it will get smaller....you will think about it less.  The place within you where it had made residence will be open for a healthier new resident.  It will all feel much better to you.

"In the very depths of your soul, dig a grave; let it be as some forgotten spot to which no path leads; and there in the eternal silence bury the wrong which you have suffered. Your heart will feel as if a load had fallen from it, and a divine peace come to abide with you."      Author Unknown  (but thank you to the person who received that heavenly revelation)

Well, that is my thought for today. Have a nice day.  Jim